I came across this quote as I was aimlessly scrolling through my Breakup Club feed on Instagram, half-paying attention. At first, I laughed, then my heart sank. The initial reaction made me feel good, but the negativity was what stuck.

That's not at all how it was meant to be perceived, yet my perception subconsciously heightened my anxiety. It had me thinking about Breakup Club and how to produce content that doesn’t leave you feeling perplexed or give confusing answers to questions you’ll likely never get the answer to.

Instead, Breakup Club was created to bring our underlying emotions to the surface, confront them head-on, question our feelings, experience our emotions, and hopefully be better because of it. Sometimes, the places we go for 'help' can be the most dangerous. Breakup Club recognizes this and strives to do better for those who want to feel better.

The reality of most situations is that you do not have any control over them, which can be frustrating. You have no idea if the person you sent a risky text to is ghosting you or is just busy at work. You’ll never know. That’s why perspective is so important.

A lot of time is spent on social media, consuming content when we are desperately searching for any happiness we can find, answers to questions we’ve spent hours overthinking, or some sort of reassuring relief. We search for what we WANT to hear, not what we NEED to hear, and then we bump into a post that was written as a witty and funny joke, and our vulnerable state of mind leaves us feeling worse than before.

Life is about perspective; once you recognize this, shifting your perspective on certain aspects of life becomes easier.

Whenever I am in a store or restaurant, I always say please and thank you, no matter what interaction I have with the other person. My mom always taught me that I have no idea what has happened in that person’s day to make them act this way, and I have no idea how this stranger would act at their best. I choose to give them the benefit of the doubt and make sure I can add a positive element to their day, even in the slightest way.

How else are we supposed to forgive ourselves for how we act during the raw moments in our lives that leave us face-to-face with heartbreak?

It starts by accepting that every person has a different perception of everything that happens throughout their day. You will never have control over how another person perceives something, but you DO have control over the way you perceive the world and how you contribute to it because of that perception. The narrower the lens you view the world through, the smaller your world becomes.